Love, Sex & Attachment

Trauma-Informed Support Group
(by) and for Queer People

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Some of our hardest stuff shows up in relationships.
Who we fall for, how close we let people get, how we deal with conflict, jealousy, distance, shame, desire, or fear of being too much (or not enough).

This trauma-informed support group is a space for queer people who want to explore these patterns together, with care, structure, and professional facilitation. Not as a one time workshop, but as a real process over time.

You don’t need to be “doing badly” to join.
You just need to be curious, willing to reflect, and open to being in a group.

Yes. I know for many of us group dynamics and memories can come with a lot of unease, or can even feel threatening. This is how it often was for me too. This is an opportunity to come together in a way that feels nurturing. In a held space of care.

What this group is (and what it isn’t)

  • This is a closed, weekly support group with the same people meeting over several weeks. It’s not drop-in and not a lecture format.

    Each week, one participant is in focus, with space for:

    • sharing what’s alive for them

    • being witnessed by the group

    • gentle reflection and resonance

    • exploring relational and emotional patterns

    The group is:

    • trauma-informed

    • queer-centered

    • relational and process-oriented

    • structured, but not rigid

    This group is not:

    • a replacement for individual therapy

    • suitable for people in acute crisis

    • a skills class or psycho-education workshop

    It can be a powerful complement to individual therapy, and for some people it’s their first experience of being emotionally seen in a group, which can be very meaningful (and sometimes challenging in good ways).

  • The group is facilitated by Dani Tut Bar (they/er), Heilpraktiker für Psychotherapie, EMDR & AEDP-informed, with a focus on queer clients, trauma, migration, and attachment themes.

    This is group is part of my continued education as I continue further training in group psychotherapy, which is why:

    • the group is offered at a reduced sliding-scale rate

    • there is a careful intake process

    • I work with supervision and take group safety seriously

    I’ll be very transparent about the container, boundaries, and what I can and can’t offer as facilitator. If at any point it doesn’t feel like the right fit for you, we’ll talk about that and find other support options if needed.

    • Type: Closed support group (same participants each week)

    • Frequency: Weekly

    • Session length: 90 minutes

    • Group size: Min. 6 / Max. 8

    • Duration: 14 weeks

    • Start: November 2026 (Morning, online) and December 2026 (Afternoon/Evening, in person)

    • Cost: Sliding scale, 20–50€ per session (I invite you to choose a rate that feels honest for your financial situation. If money is a barrier, mention it in your application and we’ll see what’s possible. If You would like to pay over the rate to support another, please let me know.)

  • To protect both you and the group, joining happens in two steps:

    1. Short written informal application

    Please send a short email including:

    • a few lines about yourself

    • what draws you to this group

    • what you hope to explore or get support with

    You don’t need to overshare, just enough for me to understand your motivation and expectations.

    2. Brief check-in before confirmation

    After reading your email, I’ll invite you to:

    • a 15-minute call, or

    • if needed, a 30-minute consultation

    This is to check:

    • whether this group is a good fit for you

    • whether the group can safely hold what you’re currently dealing with

    • and to answer any questions you have

    After that, I’ll confirm your spot (if it feels like a good match on both sides).

  • This group might be a good fit if you:

    • are queer and want to explore relational themes in community

    • notice repeating patterns in love, dating, sex or attachment

    • are able to listen to others and not only focus on your own process

    • are open to giving and receiving gentle feedback

    • can commit to showing up regularly

    It may not be the right space if you:

    • are currently in acute emotional crisis

    • need very intensive individual therapeutic support right now

    • are mainly looking for technique-based or educational content

    If you’re unsure, that’s totally okay, the check-in call is exactly for that.

  • Everything that is shared in this group stays in this group.

    All participants commit to confidentiality, meaning that no personal stories, names, identities, or anything said in the sessions may be shared with people outside the group. Not with friends, partners, other community members, or on social media.

    This includes talking about “someone from my group said…” in a way that could make others identifiable. Even if names are not mentioned, personal stories belong to the people who shared them.

    As facilitator and Heilpraktiker für Psychotherapie, I am bound by professional confidentiality (Schweigepflicht). I also ask all participants to treat each other’s vulnerability with the same level of care and discretion.

    Confidentiality is not just a formal rule! It is what makes it possible to speak honestly, take emotional risks, and feel safer in a group setting.

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